Thoughts on Dad’s Alcoholism While Driving through McDonald’s
What is it like?
To be a child of the bottle?
To never break its seal
but ever feel its wrath?
It is to tip-toe around
your own home,
never knowing
whether
you’ve said or done,
the right thing.
The Wrong Thing?
It is to listen,
just a little at least,
to a small, sweet voice
which believes,
just a little,
in oneself,
despite a vortex of insanity
which says you—
you are always
The Problem.
It is to show up
from birth
in an unsafe world—
just as all the others do,
but with an inherited message
which says,
this unsafeness—
it comes from within.
This darkness—
it is your birthright.
A message which says,
other places,
far away lands,
and romantic relationships—
other people,
they have access.
but you—
you are not enough.
Not at this moment.
Maybe later, you’ll do better.
Maybe later, you won’t be so upsetting.
So disruptive
So disgusting.
Maybe later, you’ll
Be.
Worth listening to.
Maybe later, you can escape.
Maybe later,
You’ll be.
You’ll be.
You’ll be.
To be a child of the bottle is
to hold on
to the goodness of your being
Despite.
Despite.
Despite.
It is to hold the message,
alone,
and in spite of the pervasive
black-hole-lonliness—
that you are worth
Being.
To be a child of the bottle
is to emerge
into an adult form
who, if lucky,
connects
the unconnected dots.
One who sees the child as
a child
and loves her.
It is to find wonder,
and gratitude
for a little girl who held on
to herself.
It is to celebrate
the unbelievable courage
and bravery it takes
to hold the too-much-ness
of a too-much-little life
with far too few choices.
It is to emerge.
To show kindness and
gratitude to a body and spirit
that are whole.
That have
always,
always been whole.
Always,
always, been enough.
It is to just be, and feel,
so, so damn lucky.
Poem: © 2022 Ashley Wolpert Miller
Photo credit: © Stanislav / Adobe Stock